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10 Valentines Day Ideas That Aren’t Cheesy

I was browsing through the net to find for “some” activity for Valentines Day since “my Man” isn’t around (and V-Day is just around the corner). Of course, even though he’s not with me but yet I want to feel that WE are celebrating it together… I want to do something. Like I can go fine-dining and then call him…. Now this is one disadvantage of the so-called “long-distance relationship”. But I am happy coz it’s legit. Meaning I can tell it to my kids, family and friends…. Well of course, I’m talking about the near future. And since I am writing it now then maybe they already have an idea. Hehe.


Anyways, going back to my browsing, I came up on this site having an article about ideas that you can do on Valentines Day. Well the catch is this article seems to be written for the western side only. Let’s just make a little bit of modification on this article so it may adapt for the Pinoys. You can comment on additional ideas or suggestions. Reactions are appreciated as long as it doesn’t go below the belt. Hey, I am just sharing what I have stumbled on. OKAY? Thank you for that and you may read on:


Instead of going through the motions, go rogue this Valentines Day!

 One might say that Valentines Day is the epitome of cheesiness, but naysayers need love too. So go ahead and skip the candlelight dinner, roses and heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, and try one of these cynic-proof Valentines Day ideas.  


1. Burlesque Show

Spend this Valentines Day getting sultry by taking your date to a burlesque show. These old-timey acts are more sexy than skanky (think feather boas, long gloves, fans and tasseled pasties). Talented performers often accompany the campy humor and killer costume.

My Pinoy version: Since Burlesques Show isn’t that really famous with most of the Pinoys, then maybe you can just ask your partner to cuddle up on the sofa and watch some romantic sensual movies. If you’re a couple with kids do this inside your bedroom when the kids are asleep or if you have the funds, go and check-in in a hotel or condotel. Don’t think about the “gastos” puhleeeees. This is your moment for the both of you. 

2. Indoor Picnic

Skip the restaurant scene, where you’ll inevitably be stuck with an overpriced pre-fixed menu and a seat that leaves you knee-to-knee with other star-crossed lovebirds. Spend your Valentines Day dinner enjoying an indoor picnic instead. Spread out the blanket, break out the fancy accouterments — and don’t forget the bubbly. 

My Pinoy version: To the “mag-jowa” , yes this is a very nice idea. Just do what the article said. But for “mag-asawa” go and dine-out. It doesn’t have to be a fine-dining style as long as only the 2 of you. Just having the first date that you had before. Ganun lang.

3. “Glamping”

Let’s face it: camping isn’t always sexy (bug spray and outdoor toilets can be a romance buzzkill, to say the least). But “glamping” (glamorous camping) can make for the ultimate Valentines Day staycation. Pitch a tent (not that kind) in the backyard or even the bedroom, whip up a batch of s’mores, light up the fireplace (on DVD) and get all cozy in that sleeping bag for deux.

My Pinoy version: Don’t be misled with the phrase “glamorous camping”. It really does not mean that it has to be glamorous (the spending much thingy). The article already cited what you can do when you opt for this activity. Or you can just go under the sheets with your flash light ;) 

4. Roller Skating

Most dates will be hitting the ice skating rink come Valentines Day, so go old school by taking your date roller skating instead. Bust out your tube socks and short shorts — the roller rink makes for a super-fun Valentines Day setting. You can hang out in the arcade, buy your date a candy necklace, and get cozy for a couple’s skate.

My Pinoy version: Yes, why not? We do have skating rinks in Mega Mall and MOA so why not go for it? Even you don’t know how to skate that would be so much fun. Just imagine the 2 of you laughing at each other’s bumping and sliding ;). Now if going to the rink is kind a expensive, you two can just sit and watch the skaters do their twirls while holding hands amidst the cold temperature of the area or you can laugh out to those people who stumble their ass on ice. Hehe. Isn’t that romantic?

 5. Bowling

Bowling may not reek of romance, but c’mon, it’s fun! Throw back a few cold ones, grab some junk food and settle in for some healthy competition this Valentine’s Day. Make things a little more interesting by keeping score and promising the winner a Valentine’s Day “prize.” 

My Pinoy version: Now this is really IN to me! Haha! Bowling isn’t really that expensive. Plus you can make the game more exciting by “pustahan”. Let’s say winner takes all? ;) 

6. Comedy Show

Some say laughter is an aphrodisiac, and who are we to argue with that logic? Also, what better way to celebrate Valentines Day than to laugh your butt off? Grab a date and head to the nearest comedy club for an off-the-grid VDay experience. 

 My Pinoy version: It’s either you go and watch in a comedy bar or watch a romantic comedy movie. Which one that would be more affordable to you as long as the two of you would enjoy it, then relax and laugh out loud :D

7. Hot Yoga

Flexible? Get steamy with a Valentines Day “hot yoga” class for two. The flow of the poses in the heated room will increase blood flow and boost your endorphins — plus your partner will look sexy in a sweaty downward dog. The best part? A shower is absolutely necessary after this type of class, so make it a shower for two.

 My Pinoy version: If you can’t afford hot yoga then working out together on the gym or jogging together in the park will just do fine. Just don’t forget, hitting the shower together is the ultimate fun.

8. Concert

Skip the opera this Valentines Day and head straight for the ultimate rock-n-roll date: take your Valentine to see his or her favorite band. Or just hit up a local music venue for a live show. Seeing your fave local band or just an acoustic show is a perfectly romantic Valentines Day gift. 

 My Pinoy version: Duh! What the article says, go and do it!

9. Sexy Scavenger Hunt

Design a sexy scavenger hunt for your honey this Valentines Day. Create clues that lead to special places you’ve been together and reward them with sexy prizes. (Try recreating your first kiss.) Bonus: This can be completely free, and you’ll score major points for creativity.

 My Pinoy version: I think I don’t have to modify something about this one. It’s free and it’s a go!

10. Salsa Dancing

You don’t have to watch “Dancing with the Stars” to know that salsa is super sexy. Work off your Valentines Day dinner by hitting up a Latin club, or take a lesson for two. Online deal sites like and often offer coupons on dance lessons, so check before hit the dance floor.

 My Pinoy version:  Go in any club that you like as long as both of you is interested in dancing. If you prefer doing it at home, I don’t see any reason why not. Important is, being together and enjoying romantic moments with each other.



Without you….. is like staring in a Black Hole….

Without you….. is like staring in a Black Hole….

Random heart of Chaguia

Because I love you, so I am making this right…. Leaving past behind our memory lane….I never thought love could be this hard…. And yet I managed to make my claim…. Let me release what is in my hand…. So I can receive another one…. Believe me when I tell you…. You’ll always be remembered in my heart.

Close your eyes and you will see clearly

Cease to listen and you will hear truth.

Be silent and your heart will sing.

Seek no contacts and you will find union.

Be still and you will move forward on the tide of the spirit.

Be gentle and and you will need no strength.

Be patient and you will achieve all things.

Be humble and you will remain entire.

Stop thinking and you will end problems.


                                                —-Taoist Meditation

couple gecko

couple gecko

… and here we are just staring into each other’s eyes, not minding where… a quiet and cozy place… romantic indeed. but does it matter? no. coz we are lost in our thoughts… of just being together… you and me… just us… only us… 

… and here we are just staring into each other’s eyes, not minding where… a quiet and cozy place… romantic indeed. but does it matter? no. coz we are lost in our thoughts… of just being together… you and me… just us… only us… 

"We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—- the ones that make you truly who you are—- that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—- someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, "This is the problem I want to have."

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.”